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Discouraging...

People need to realize that trans folk are not the same as pedophiles… Just the same as gay folk are not pedophiles. Neither of them are perverts. They are not enemies. They are not Other.

I’m not gay, nor trans. Nor any of the other initials. I, like you, am merely a person. A human being. And I’m tired.

I don’t wanna see no man in the bathroom with ma daughters… We gots to protect our wimmen an’ chil’ren!

Pathetic… And quite discouraging. With all that is wrong with this country, nay the world! And we gotta worry about who is peeing where.

I weep for America. And I’m tired.

I started to post this on my Facebook page. Then I got frightened. Not of the repercussions, but of the reactions of various people that I call - Friend. Because I want to continue to call some of them that. People I admire. Others, I will (and have) let go.

When someone feels that strongly about something like that I don’t think I have the power or the will (not anymore) to change their mind. I don’t have the words.

I feel like we (as a nation) have battled against prejudice, inequality, and discrimination for just about my entire life.

I’m tired of it. And I’m white. And straight.

I see it seemingly being rolled back before my very eyes. It ain’t right…

I’m tired of it. Old and tired.

I weep for America…

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kabuldur
Apr. 11th, 2016 08:44 am (UTC)
'fraid it's all going wrong. My country, too, though perhaps not quite so crazy...yet. Dunno what to do about it.
texasts
Apr. 11th, 2016 10:25 pm (UTC)
It can be maddening. Mostly though now, I'm just tired of it.
kabuldur
Apr. 12th, 2016 10:04 am (UTC)
Not surprised that you are tired!

Sometimes it's better to stop getting upset about it and stop wasting you energy giving it attention (although it could change your life down the track).
serene_orange
Apr. 11th, 2016 03:51 pm (UTC)
It's really upsetting to lose respect for someone because of their views on things.
I became facebook friends with someone a couple of months ago through someone else. She recently posted one of those "not in the bathroom with my daughters" bullshit and I thought, "I don't even fucking know you. I definitely don't feel like getting to know you. ::delete::"

But then there are the friends I have known for years and then you start to slowly lose respect for them because they keep saying bigoted ass shit. I lost a friend of six years. I had actually put her on hide because it just hurt my heart to see the dumb angry shit she posted all the time. Then I looked and she said, "If you believe XXXX, then just delete me from facebook" so I did. I didn't have the intention of severing our whole friendship, but apparently we are supposed to live and die through facebook. She won't even speak to me. Because I followed her instructions.
Turns out, I am actually a lot happier not having to deal with her or see her bullshit any longer. I'd be more sad about it, but I am too busy being more happy and relaxed without her in my life and taking up space in my head with her ugliness.
texasts
Apr. 11th, 2016 10:23 pm (UTC)
Yeah. Exactly. If folks spout hate I usually give them a warning, but they're usually gone pretty quickly after that, because they cannot help it. Sincerely held beliefs are just that, whether right or wrong is irrelevant I guess. For some people.

Some I dump fairly quickly. A lot of my ex in laws (last set) got let go pretty quickly. Hatefully prejudiced. People are from PA and think that way. Can you imagine? They were pretty poisonous. I only kept one or two because I had an unreasonable concern for my ex herself.

I've had one or two on FB I just hid (as you did) mostly because I found them here and they didn't seem to spout that awful shit when they were here. Dropped most of them at this point too.
babeofbryan
Apr. 11th, 2016 08:38 pm (UTC)
I agree with you. I weep for this country and i pray. Im a praying gal and I pray that people will open their eyes and realize that God made us all and it doesnt matter if we are oran
ge or green or zebra striped, gay or straight or both. It doesnt matter. What matters id kindness, love and forgiveness.
texasts
Apr. 11th, 2016 10:24 pm (UTC)
Yes. Exactly.
goingbronco
Apr. 11th, 2016 10:33 pm (UTC)
Okay, but I've seen SEVERAL discussions about this and nobody seems to be really upset about the idea of a transgender person in the bathroom, they're upset about the idea that ANYONE can CLAIM to be transgender to get into the women's bathroom with nobody being able to stop them. But their being ignored as homophobic or something of that nature. I'm not sure how I feel about this issue, it hasn't come to Idaho yet, I have time to formulate my thoughts still.
texasts
Apr. 11th, 2016 11:36 pm (UTC)
You do. But your postulation is not necessarily the point I was trying to make.

Here in Houston the openly lesbian mayor crafted an ordinance for anti discrimination based on gender assignment or sexual orientation, it was passed by the council. There was a public outcry fostered by the right similar to what I put up in my post. It was challenged in court.

This ordinance was basically a statement that you could not be discriminated against based on sexual orientation or gender identification. It was widely decried as one of these "bathroom ordinances", which is not what it was completely about.

The court decided that it should have been put to a vote by the general populace (And rightly so, that's the way democracy works) and it was roundly defeated by mandate of the people and repealed.

The right mobilized against the "Bathroom Ordinance" and the mayor herself, who was elected by majority not once but for TWO terms!) because of her "lesbian agenda". And apparently around here (at least in Houston) no one cared enough to put up a decent campaign for it and it was defeated. And since the mayor was limited to 2 terms by term limits it has not been brought up again.

My issue with the state laws is that they are discriminatory based on religion and hence unconstitutional. They will make their way to the Supreme Court and will likely be struck down as such.

It looks like the laws okay the discrimination of ANYONE based on religious principles. People could (for instance) have premarital sex (not just gay, lesbian or bi, but ANYONE) and be discriminated against by the religiously principled. Like happens to people in places like Iran or Saudi Arabia. Sharia law, thinly veiled as it were. That is not who we are as a nation.

Like it or not this country is not a religious theocracy despite what the far right would like to think. These laws are an opening. But in the wrong direction.

"When they came for the gay people, I said nothing because I was not gay..." Etc...

My deal is still this... With all the other problems in American society - we have to be distracted by who is going to the bathroom where... I probably have not stated this as eloquently as some others could, but Damn, we've got bigger and more important problems than this distracting BULLSHIT!

Edited at 2016-04-11 11:39 pm (UTC)
goingbronco
Apr. 13th, 2016 12:51 am (UTC)
Or like here, it was for a long time in many places illegal to have sex before marriage here in the U.S. post the passing of our constitution. It's quite debatable what is constitutional and what is not these days it seems to me.
ellierachael
Apr. 16th, 2016 05:41 pm (UTC)
I'd just post it. If people out themselves as prejudiced, I'm more than happy to remove them from my life. Even if I thought good of them before that, those kind of opinions would change all that
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