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So I have a membership at ourtime.com. Not really sure about this online dating thing. Filled out my profile. Spent some time on it too. Got a recent picture. Sprang for a paid month.

But honestly, I guess I'm kinda old school. Got a few hits from some nice (well I hope they are nice women from the ages of 43 to early 60's. And a couple from their mid 70's. *laughs* They were out of my league. Little over my age limit, but hell, more power to 'em!

Logged in once and a woman that was nearly 80 from OKC wanted to chat!

But after having one long chat convo with a nice lady that was a veterinary surgeon, whom I let go rather than string her on, even though she seemed really nice, I realized I am likely not healthy enough to date. Nor am I really dating material. Got no car, no spare income right now, and my health is somewhat poorly. *Somewhat* Hah!

Why did I spring for a paid month? Curiosity mostly. Never used online dating at all. I never really gave it much thought. Never had to. Always fell from one relationship to the next in rapid succession for the most part. Usually women that I knew in one form or another.

But now? Since I moved out to the 'burbs, I'm in kind of social limbo. A social desert as it may be.

Not hanging out with friends because they mostly live in town. Gave up hanging in my element. Bars mostly, because I had to. *There will be more about this in subsequent posts* This is likely a temporary situation.

But you see, I'm a bit lonely. The online thing was just to gauge the game, as it were. See if my game needed to be upped. Likely it does. My paid membership expired yesterday. So I can log on. (and log off). But not much else.

And now of course, my email associated with the account is jammed with things like:

  • You have +1 Flirt and 6 unread flirts

  • She said YES, find out who she is!

  • You have 4 new messages!

  • You're a MATCH! See who is interested in you!

  • She's flirting with you!

  • She said YES, find out who she is!

And I cannot see any of the content. Sorry bastards. It's likely just clickbait too.

But wait! I just got a coupon in my email for 25% off to renew! Feh! Heh. Going to think on it for a bit and will likely shut my account down... Walk away. It was an interesting month. But yanno, the dating game seems like a whole lot of work, and not that likely for a good return. MEH.


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Jan. 8th, 2017 04:50 am (UTC)
I've never heard of that site. I'm on OKC, which I would highly recommend. It's free and you don't get all of that e-mail spam. I met my current parter on that sight. I actually met a former partner on Match.com, which at the time I did pay for.

Dating is a lot of work. I totally get that. Just the thought of putting the time and energy necessary into looking at and reading the profiles, striking up a sustainable conversation, getting calendars together to make a date, go on the date and actually interact, keep in contact with, potentially make room in your life for another person.....Sometimes it's just exhausting.
Jan. 8th, 2017 10:46 am (UTC)
Ourtime is a part of Match.com. Specifically for let's say "more mature" folk.

I think I'll likely write them all off for now.
Jan. 25th, 2017 01:03 am (UTC)
Yea, I'm sort of over most of it myself. I'll find myself on OKC occasionally and chatting up someone, but when it comes to, "Hey, you wanna meet for coffee or something?" It just suddenly seems like too much work.
Jan. 8th, 2017 11:25 am (UTC)
Weelll, I think I told you what I thought of dating sites.

But damn, this is a shame!
Jan. 8th, 2017 12:28 pm (UTC)
I've always had better luck finding romantic partners by not looking. My current partner pursued ME, and finally came out and admitted she was crazy about me. We've been together for a few months and it's looking very good.
Jan. 8th, 2017 09:12 pm (UTC)
Yep. Me too, until this latest really long, partially self inflicted, dry spell, I've never had any issues. Usually had one in the wings, but I ran them all off because when that last marriage folded up and imploded, it hurt. Hurt bad enough that I felt I was fucking broken.

And now I might still be a bit busted up, but I don't care. *heh*
Jan. 8th, 2017 07:39 pm (UTC)
You can marry your cousin...--at Farmers Only . Com
Jan. 8th, 2017 09:14 pm (UTC)
I can tell you've never met any of my cousins. Some of them might be on that site. Most of them are from corn country.
Jan. 8th, 2017 07:50 pm (UTC)
It does sound like you're getting those emails in an attempt to make you pay more only. Sadly.
Jan. 8th, 2017 09:14 pm (UTC)
Jan. 8th, 2017 09:08 pm (UTC)
you are braver than I am. I hate being single but I've never been able to work up the nerve to do internet dating, even though its how my brother and his wife met. Maybe someday...
Jan. 8th, 2017 09:16 pm (UTC)
It does seem to take some cojones. Or maybe desperation. *heh* Dunno. I don't feel desperate.
Jan. 8th, 2017 11:40 pm (UTC)
I met my guy in an online chat room 18 yrs ago. My daughter met her husband in an online chat room. ive done the dating sites and all I got out of them were men and women wanting booty calls. Um no not the first time I see you. My niece just a year ago went on plenty of fish.com and found her guy. It can be done. Just be choosy and careful. You need companionship and im sure you will find it when the time is right. Until then you have us! :)
Jan. 10th, 2017 04:47 am (UTC)
Indeed I do...

And as always, I am grateful.
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